One reason I hate Tinder is because it makes it too easy for a girl to get a maximum amount of attention while putting in no effort. One reason I don’t get email addresses is because it’s too easy for the girl to reply when she feels like it. One reason I don’t like coffee dates is because she doesn’t come to the date ready to perform or please. Instead, she can sit there acting available while everybody else does the work. That setup is designed to make the man chase while she keeps control.

A female blogger writes that she loves coffee dates because they are totally casual. Exactly. Have you ever first made out with someone on a coffee date? You haven’t. When a girl wants to go on a coffee date, she is basically saying she is not trying to hook up with you or does not want you to escalate your game. Safe and comfortable for her means late night masturbation for you. She gets the benefits of your attention without having to give much back.

If you don’t make out with a girl when you first meet her, you failed. If you don’t make out with her by the first date, you are a complete sucker. What are you waiting for? Be a man, get her in a bar, make her laugh over a couple drinks, and step up. If you are under 21, get a smoothie, go for a walk, sit on a bench in front of some pond with ducks, put your arm around her, and make it happen. The point is to build momentum, not drag things out like some timid tourist.

If you are not making out with girls by the first date, you need to seriously work on your game. It doesn’t matter how old you are. If you think making out with girls by the first date is “too fast,” then you are a hopeless beta who probably doesn’t go on dates anyway. A man who waits too long usually waits himself out of the game. By the time he is ready, the girl has already moved on to someone with a little more nerve.